As a child and teen in Nigeria, I heard a lot of interesting stories about how Sister Jane, the church worship singer, got pregnant by the church choirmaster, Brother John.
Most churches’ choir departments are often the source of this kind of juicy news.
Church choir members dating is a common issue that needs to be dealt with in our churches and campus fellowships.
We all know that at the end of the praise session, Bro. Akpos, the drummer, and Michael, the keyboardist, will do a little freestyle not to honor God but to get the attention of the women in the church.
This method has been shown to work over and over again.
Most singers and musicians are only interested in parts of the service where they can show off what they can do. It is common to find them outside the church during the sermon and prayer session.
In Nigerian colleges and universities, the situation is even worse when it comes to campus fellowships.
Brothers want to join the choir so they can be close to a really nice sister at school.
The sisters on their path become choristers because they want to showcase their beauty and curve for potential suitors that may be in service the day they take a song solo.
If you lived off campus in the University, Polytechnic, or College of Education, you would know that campus fellowship sisters visit brothers for private choir rehearsals in their lodge.
Usually, it ends with a very good sexual act.
Why do so many choristers in the church date?
Freedom, comfort, and closeness
Young members whose hormones are going crazy
The Search for Religious Men and the Spirikoko Sisters
Church Laws That Are Hard to Follow:
1. Freedom, comfort, and closeness
As teenagers in Nigeria, some of us could only leave the house by telling our parents we wanted to go to choir practice.
Being a member of a choir gives you a lot of freedom. Choristers spend a lot of time with each other and get to know each other well.
When you stay around the opposite sex with attributes that you admire, it is natural to catch feelings for them.
It’s pretty easy to date in a place where everyone knows each other. It just feels like the logical thing to do.
Some guys are afraid to talk to women outside of church, but this doesn’t stop them in the church choir group.
Most of the time, it’s the women or their skill on the instrument that wins them over.
Most days of the week, choir members are always together for rehearsals and song ministry. With this closeness and proximity, friendship and affection grow, which then turn into lust.
“Na where you work, you chop” is a popular Nigerian saying that explains why church choir members often date.
2. Young members whose hormones are going crazy
Singing is a beautiful thing. Most young people can be themselves and say what they want in a choir group.
Most church choirs and campus fellowship choirs are mostly made up of young people. Youths are known to be active, curious, and have a strong sex drive.
Most of these young people join a church choir for the wrong reasons. They are only in the choir department because it makes them popular, not because it has a spiritual effect.
Most young people don’t think it’s weird to date someone in their choir. They have a hormone that makes them sexually aggressive, which makes them want to do these things.
As long as the church choir is mostly made up of young people who care more about being popular than growing spiritually, there will be more wrong relationships between choristers in the church and campus fellowships.
3. The search for godly men and the Spirikoko sisters
Every woman’s dream is to hook up with a God-fearing man with a fiery personality.
Men, too, want to marry a beautiful spirikoko sister. Well, one place to find this group of people is in a choir group.
Some people only go to church to hear Sister Jessica sing because her voice is so beautiful. Brother Tunde’s baritone voice makes some women drool.
Because the choir department is a place where people with similar interests can meet, they end up dating these people.
4. Church rules that are very strict
The church rule or campus fellowship constitution makes it clear that choir members can’t have inappropriate or sexual relationships with other people.
As has already been said, young people love to break the rules. When young people date in secret and don’t tell anyone, they feel a certain kind of ecstasy.
Teenagers and young people will always want to do crazy things.
To stop this problem, churches should come up with ways for young people to talk about their feelings and get godly advice.
5. Satan Instrumentalism
Before he lost his power and beauty, Satan was the most beautiful and powerful angel. Using the Bible as a point of reference.
Ezekiel 28:13 says The workmanship of your timbrels and pipes was prepared for you on the day you were created.
It is known that Satan was the first person to lead worship.
The connection between Satan and the choir group is popular base on how choristers engage in immoral behaviour.
The devil doesn’t want Christians to worship God with their whole hearts and minds.
One way to reach the goal is to make the church singers want to be with each other.
When choir members let lust into their hearts, the glory of God leaves the church.
To sum up, sexual relationships happen in church choirs and campus fellowships because Satan’s main targets are those groups.
Does everyone in the choir have sexual relationships?
Of course not. Not every person in a church choir has a bad relationship.
Most churches and college campus fellowships are the only places where the act is common.
Is dating bad for people in the choir?
It’s not wrong for church choir members to date or court as long as their relationships follow the Bible and church doctrine.
Church choristers can marry other members of the church or anyone else in the church as long as they follow biblical rules.
How not to date in church choir?
First of all, people who want to sing in the church choir need to think about why they want to do so. They need to know that the goal of their song ministry is to bring people closer to God.
Churches should start a support group for choir members that talks about sexuality and relationships. Teenagers and young adults in the church could talk about lust and fake feelings for people of the opposite sex, and in some cases, people of the same sex. They need to be supported, not yelled at. People need to agree on what friendship is in order to stay out of trouble.
Are you a member of a church choir?
Have you ever dated or been with someone who sings in a church choir?
What have you seen and what do you think about choristers dating?